Self Motivation is the Only Answer to Success in Endeavors
All of us aspire to become successful in life. We also put in efforts religiously and when the desired result is elusive, we get disenchanted and tend to slow down and give up. For instance, we may decide that a concentrated effort is required to keep ourselves fit. There is an elaborate plan draw up and a chart prepared and a new exercise regimen is created. The same is followed with great enthusiasm for 3 days. We begin to congratulate ourselves on how we have been able to keep up to what we had planned for. However, on the fourth day there is a hitch that delays the start of the regimen. The question is, how many of us would take it in our stride and continue with what we started? And how many of us would lean on this as a great excuse and abort the mission altogether? If we need to be really honest with ourselves, most of us belong to the second category. Having a majority of people thinking and acting the same way can cause a sense of belonging and a feeling that what is being done is perfectly justified. We need to understand that we are indulging in self-justification and escapism.
Being our own motivational Gurus can be quite tricky and needs a lot of introspection and deep self psychological analysis. We need to understand that a behavioral pattern has got to have a psychological reason behind it. Trying to identify it and uproot it from our psyches immediately is an urge that is difficult to resist, however impulsive action is not the solution. For example, if a person believes that overeating would help to keep away distressing thoughts, he is simply using that as a crutch and it cannot be discarded just like that. The best way would be to understand the reason behind such behavior.
Another important point is that what can be a motivating factor for one person can work in exact opposite direction for another. It is not possible to lay guidelines based on one successful experience. That is why self-analysis is very important. We need to get to our core and follow the rhythm. Let's take an example of a fitness instructor telling you that it is quite alright for a person of your age to do 45 minutes on a treadmill, and you are able to manage just 20 minutes after which you are sensing discomfort. The best course at that point of time would be to listen to what your body is telling you and not go by the fitness specialist's advice, though he is an acclaimed expert in his field. Disregarding your instincts could be harmful for you.
Just as self-analysis is important, it is important not to be self-critical. Any progress, though not up to the desired level, needs to be acknowledged, instead of indulging in self-criticism as the goal set by us for ourselves is much higher than what has been achieved. The important thing is that a step in the correct direction has been taken.
A lot of effort and hard work goes into trying to inculcate a new habit and can very often result in burnouts. In such cases it is advisable to take a break from goals, targets and deadlines. While reading a book, it is important to enjoy the content rather than calculate the number of pages that have been read. Very high expectations can end up with bitter disappointments, hence a realistic goal and target is required to strike the correct balance.Most important of all is to be able to be a good loser rather than a poor one. Handling failure and continuing the work is very important. It is only the attempt that has failed and not the person. Going on without stopping should put us on the right track.
Randy Collins - About Author:
Randy Collins is a freelance writer who believes that sustained effort always pays. He keenly watches related programs on self-motivation aired by popular service providers like Verizon FiOS TV.
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